The Children’s Hospital in Boston has posted a lovely piece by a father parenting a trans girl. In the studies showing the problems and hardships that trans youth face, we can easily lose sight of the wonderful richness and love that can arise for a family out of this experience. No doubt, some trans youth face higher rates of many hardships such as bullying, anxiety and depression. However, supportive families and friends can make a big difference. And, with an open heart, a trans youth can change your life, too.
Read more at The Children’s Hospital Boston’s Blog.
A great interview by NPR on “Talk of the Nation” with Judy Chiasson with the Office of Human Relations, Diversity and Equity at the Los Angeles Unified School District and Eliza Byard, the executive director of the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, also known as GLSEN. Listen to it here.
Two important points are made in the interview. First is that a safe school for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender students is a matter of educational equality. LGBT students who are bullied at school miss more school than other students and often, therefore, miss out on important educational opportunities. The other point is that not all LGBT students require the same level of service. This is important because it emphasizes that being LGBT in itself is not a cause for intervention and resources. Problems arise from a non-supportive home or school environment and from the homophobic culture that we all live in. Youth who have supportive families, teachers and friends may only need assistance in clarifying their needs or identity, if that. Other youth may struggle with discrimination on different levels.
NPR does a good job of outlining the most important aspects of the youth experience and how some schools and organizations go about making a safer, more equal environment for all youth.
Parenting young gay men is not always easy. Between working through your own possible issues with his identity, and figuring out how to (and if to) tell the rest of the family, you still end up with concerns. All parents wish to keep their children safe, happy and healthy. Parents want their children to do more than survive, they want them to thrive. This article addresses this and the duty of all parents to provide a supportive, safe environment:
It seems that more gay teens are coming out than there were not too many years ago. Most gay guys are likely to wait until they are older, perhaps until after they have moved from home, started college or even a career, before they find the courage to share that important aspect of themselves with their family or (in some cases) even their friends. In fact, a large portion of gay men never come out to one of both of their parents, something that is frequently an issue of great
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regret after a parent’s passing. A parent need not be enthusiastic about a child’s sexual orientation, whether gay or straight or somewhere in between. In fact, many of us would prefer to think of our children as totally non-sexual beings as long as possible. However, a parent does need to be supportive of a child in a number of important ways.
Read the rest at Home and Family.
And, for a beautiful, uplifting essay by a mom of a young gay man, see “My Perfect Gay Son“